I've had an epiphany with my son Jet (6). He has been diagnosed as ADHD but I'm not sure about that one. His behaviour would be classed as poor - low concentration, non-stop swearing, hitting, bullying etc. But in the last couple of days I've really changed my style of parenting and it has worked instantly. He is a new child. I'd like to share some of these changes:
It really starts with happiness. I'm happy and I'm laughing and I'm joking and I'm playing. This is me now. I'm a bit over the top but it's fun. Tashi (8) asked my why I was acting strangely and I just said that I'm going to be super happy from now on. AND I'm praising the boys all the time. I want them to know how wonderful they are and praise their good behaviour.
If there is any inappropriate behaviour or language from the boyz I say "we don't behave/talk like that here" and I walk away. I ignore bad behaviour.
I'm not angry, tired, grizzly, brow-beaten. If I feel angry I don't blow-up, I explain why I'm angry, and there may be time out but I don't lose my cool. At one stage I could feel myself losing it but I held it in (phew, I was proud of that one).
Simple tasks can become games, eg Jet is quite competitive so I time how long it takes to put his shoes on (previously he always refused to put his shoes on himself).
Now we're a team and we do more stuff together. Let's cook together, let's do a quizz together. And I'm modelling good behaviour. If I'm ignored I don't walk away I expect to be heard. We are communicating as a family. YAY
Alisa
www.purecurenz.com
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Tuesday, October 07, 2008
Healing all around us...
It's school holidays and I'm entertainment director right now keeping the kids happy!
Last week I had a stall at the Over 50's Healthy Living Expo. Lots of people interested in our products and I made sure there was plenty of information about each remedy so people weren't just looking at a bottle and had not idea what it was.
One Maori women I spoke with told me an interesting story. She was visiting her Nana and noticed cobwebs around the house so started to remove them. Her grandmother stopped her immediately and said that she used the cobwebs as a remedy. She would roll them together and rub them on a cut or wound as a speed healing remedy!! Incredible. Another friend mentioned this was somehow connected to penicillin.
It did get me thinking that this was a potential research project - interviewing elderly Maori for their healing knowledge to hold for future generations.
I'm a bit behind schedule but have lots of Global Soap products to enter onto the site. Give me a week for this. Also Erin (website designer extraordinaire) is designing a newsletter layout for me so this should be going out next week.
www.purecurenz.com
Last week I had a stall at the Over 50's Healthy Living Expo. Lots of people interested in our products and I made sure there was plenty of information about each remedy so people weren't just looking at a bottle and had not idea what it was.
One Maori women I spoke with told me an interesting story. She was visiting her Nana and noticed cobwebs around the house so started to remove them. Her grandmother stopped her immediately and said that she used the cobwebs as a remedy. She would roll them together and rub them on a cut or wound as a speed healing remedy!! Incredible. Another friend mentioned this was somehow connected to penicillin.
It did get me thinking that this was a potential research project - interviewing elderly Maori for their healing knowledge to hold for future generations.
I'm a bit behind schedule but have lots of Global Soap products to enter onto the site. Give me a week for this. Also Erin (website designer extraordinaire) is designing a newsletter layout for me so this should be going out next week.
www.purecurenz.com
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